A good man

Dear Reader,

 

There was considerable appreciated feedback on my article on what a good woman was, and so due to requests, an article on what a good man is presented for the readers perusal.  Ultimately, societies rely upon the man, and that is no offense to the women, but it is a reality.  Women were created last, and are the perfection of creation, but men are the movers and shakers of a society, they are the hunters, while women are the hunted:).  The modern feminist movement is only a reaction to emasculated men who have not learned to control their desires.  A real man has his priorities of God, family, and then his job.  He first submits himself to God, and then he becomes worthy of being submitted to by a woman in marriage.  A man who submits himself to God is invincible, for though we all have faults, our Creator can overcome them in us if we will only resign our wills to him.  There are huge threats to manliness in our society today, and the number one threat is pornography.  Nothing strips a man of his strength and power like the illicit viewing of others doing what should only be viewed and enjoyed in a marriage between a man and his wife.  This is why Islam is becoming more and more powerful, because Islamic men are raised to be the head, and women are raised to submit and have children.  Because they are following God's design more than America, their population is exploding, and even though the religion is a death cult, they are waxing more and more powerful.  It is easy for a Redwood tree, which is one of the tallest trees in the world, to forget how it got so tall just as it is easy for a society which is powerful to forget how it got so powerful.  America got so powerful because men were raised to become the leaders in society and to raise families and to provide for and love their wives.  It doesn't take a rocket scientist to understand the social devastation that occurs when this model is left.  What does it mean to love one's wife?  Johnny Lingo and his Eight Cow Wife is a good model to follow.  When I was in the Nuclear Navy, they had three words that were our credo: Honor, Courage, and Commitment.  I think that sums up what a good man is, and will explore each of those at length.

 

Honor is to uphold one's integrity when no one is watching.  It has become a virtue in today's society to merely condemn those get caught in wrong doing instead of condemning actions whether or not other people find out.  Men who cannot maintain their integrity in private are not fit to lead a woman in marriage or to lead in our society.   The Greek historian Polybius said, "'There is no witness so dreadful, no accuser so terrible as the conscience that dwells in the heart of every man.'".  A man's fight against himself to master his desires is the greatest fight he will ever fight.  No battle outside himself will ever approach the meaning or have greater rewards than the fight against his own desires.  Ancient cultures had rites of passage, but there is one for every man.  How does he go about mastering his desires.  Millions of men, if not billions never fight that fight.  This is a major cause for the dysfunction in society today.  A man who is convinced he is merely an animal and that his urges are there to be acted upon can never be relied upon.  He will go to his grave a boy.  A man who realizes that despite many setbacks, that his urges must be conquered for him to ever become a man will, when he succeeds in taming himself, reach a peace, joy, and strength that he never could realize otherwise.  Many men have simply succumbed and surrendered and claim that their actions are only natural, and must be obeyed, and that to resist their urges is harmful.  They would do well to learn from Churchill's words, "Never give in. Never give in. Never, never, never, never—in nothing, great or small, large or petty—never give in, except to convictions of honour and good sense. Never yield to force. Never yield to the apparently overwhelming might of the enemy".  We marvel and wonder at the might and strength of men in battle, and we forget that no man masters external battles without first mastering internal ones.  C.S. Lewis, of Narnia fame, spoke about temptation, "No man knows how bad he is till he has tried very hard to be good. A silly idea is current that good people do not know what temptation means. This is an obvious lie. Only those who try to resist temptation know how strong it is. After all, you find out the strength of the German army by fighting against it, not by giving in. You find out the strength of a wind by trying to walk against it, not by lying down. A man who gives in to temptation after five minutes simply does not know what it would have been like an hour later. That is why bad people, in one sense, know very little about badness — they have lived a sheltered life by always giving in. We never find out the strength of the evil impulse inside us until we try to fight it: and Christ, because He was the only man who never yielded to temptation, is also the only man who knows to the full what temptation means — the only complete realist."

 

So, the man who resists temptation becomes very strong.  Even those who have fallen prey to it many times can learn and make their mistakes stepping stones to success.  And Honor inside one-self is so important, because as Alfred Lord Tennyson said, it leads to courage, "My strength is as the strength of ten, because my heart is pure".  Purity of heart led to strength and courage.  Jesus said as much in his Sermon on the Mount, "Blessed (happy) are the pure in heart for they shall see God".  The reader will note that whenever there are particularly fierce oppositions to certain truths propounded on WB, inquiries are made as to exactly what habits obstruct the writers view of truth.  

 

Courage.  This word is SO PROFOUND!!  It is literally a key to ever finding the truth, and ever achieving ones’ destiny.  Defined it means: "Having the attitude of facing and dealing with anything recognized to be dangerous, difficult, or painful, instead of withdrawing from it".  Sir Walter Scott, who wrote the wonderful novel Ivanhoe, said, "Without courage there cannot be truth, and without truth there can be no other virtue.".  He is right.  Is it not true that only those who are brave enough to face pain and adversity without flinching will find the truth?  Those who simply go along with life’s flow and try to fit in where they can get in are never in danger of finding the truth, and incidentally, often prove the fiercest opposition to truth, for they cannot appreciate what they never troubled themselves to fight for.  Courage is necessary first in self.  For when one sets out to be virtuous or to master oneself, ONE WILL HAVE SETBACKS.  One must learn that a setback is a set up for a comeback.  When the going gets tough, the tough get going.  Winners never quit, and quitters never win.  A man has to learn to be like a postage stamp and to stick to something until it gets there:).  He has to learn FOCUS (F)ollow (O)ne (C)ourse (U)ntil (S)uccessful.  He has to learn that his ATTITUDE is 100%, and that without it courage is impossible.  A =1 T=20 T =20 I = 9 (1+20+20+9=50) T = 20 U =21 D =4 E =5 (20 + 21 + 4 +5 =50) 50 +50 =100%.  So you see, Dear Reader, your attitude is 100% of your outcome, and Zig Ziglar was right when he said it is your "attitude not your aptitude that determines your altitude.  Men need to have courage within first, for they cannot defend a wife, child, or their society if they have not defended their own soul.  Porn is a terrible threat to courage, as it strips a man of his self-worth, and makes him a paltry, pathetic shadow of what he ought to be.  

 

A man who is not in control of himself is a coward, and he can marry as many women as he likes or get involved with however many, but women are smart, and they will always see him for what he is, and they will despise him, and then many men get mad at women, when they have nothing to be angry about but their own silly choices.  If a man wishes to be treated like a King, he must first act like one and that starts when he is alone, and the thoughts and actions he chooses when no one is watching.  A good man has the courage to lead, and realizes that Solomon was right when he said, "He that is slow to anger is better than the mighty; and he that ruleth his spirit than he that taketh a city.".  Controlling one's anger is a sign of a powerful man.  "The discretion of a man deferreth his anger; and it is his glory to pass over a transgression." as Solomon said as well in Proverbs.  Courage is not the same thing as always being angry.  For as Solomon once again said, "anger resteth in the bosom of fools".  Anger and pride are closely related.  Women would do well to look for humble men. They are the hardest workers, and the most likely to please others and not themselves.  They are also the least selfish.  Pride is those who think they know more than they really do.  Proud people are easily angered, because they hate to be reminded that they are not the lofty ideals they have set themselves up to be.  There is a huge difference between those who attack ideals based on truth, and those who believe in lies and hate to be corrected.   When a man has mastered himself, and is brave, he is ready to move along to commitment.

 

Commitment is a high word, and one used by servants.  Many view servanthood as beneath them, but the wise realize the greatest are simply the greatest servants.  We are all servants in one capacity or another.  The greatest are those who fight first for their souls, and serve God, and then turn around and serve their fellow man.  Our society is full of men who serve only their own selfish impulses.  From Bill Clinton, to Trump's past indiscretions we have millions of examples of men in our nation who are only after being committed to their own present pleasure, no matter who gets harmed.  They leave millions of women and damaged children in their wake.  Here are the words of a five year old girl who does not have her father, "mom, why do my friends have fathers and I don't, did I do something wrong or is he lost and couldn't find his way home"?  A real man is committed to his wife with his eyes.  That starts with his thoughts.  As a child I LOVED The Wizard of Oz books.  I purchased the entire 17 volume set a few years back, and it is a wonderful reminder of my childhood, when my parents would take me to the library when I was 5 or 6 and I would wake up at four in the morning to read what would happen next in the Oz book.  L. Frank Baum, the author was a remarkable man.  When he was on his deathbed, he leaned over to his wife before he died, and he said, "Honey, I just want you to know that I have never loved another woman since I met you".  That is the kind of commitment that a real man has.  A real man realizes that he is loving a woman and her heart.  A real man is not shallow and superficial and leaving his wife when she ages to go find himself a trophy wife.  A real man realizes what King Solomon said, "Beauty is vain and favor deceitful, but a woman who fears the lord, she shall be praised".  A real man refuses to look at pornography.  A real man does not go to the beach, or swimming pools.  He refuses to look at a woman who is scantily clad.  A real man does not have a television.  He realizes television is full of some of the most absurd garbage and he refuses to pollute his eyes and mind with television and Hollywood's movies.  While there are some good programs, the trade-off to learn the tiny amount of good on television while forsaking meaningful human interactions isn't even close to being worth it.    He realizes his eyes are naturally attracted to women who are scantily clad, and he removes temptation from his eyes.  A real man realizes that men are powerful and are told to fight, but the one thing God told a man he could not resist was the sight of a beautiful woman not his wife, and God said to "RUN".  Joseph did it, and he went from being a slave to being a ruler.  Every man on earth can do it, and they will go from being slaves to rulers first over themselves, and then over others, for a man who rules himself wisely, will be sought after to rule others wisely as well.

 

A real man does not leave his commitment to his wife and children, and he loves his wife.  A real man does not dream of putting a woman in a compromising situation.  A REAL MAN DOES NOT PAY A WOMAN FOR SEX!!!  That is not commitment.  A good man lives wisely and frugally, and he provides materially for his wife and children.  He also is revered in his community, and his good name is known far and wide.  But the commitment that is first and foremost for a good man is the commitment to God.  With God, courage, and honor are his, but without God, a man is lost, and can never make a wife truly happy, nor can he truly be a credit to his community.  America is full of selfish men, who look only to their own pleasures.  Since they are not willing to be courageous, honorable, and committed, women are not committed to having children and making a family their primary priority.  Our nation is falling apart because of selfish men, and until the men become what God intended them to be, the problem will not be fixed.  The problem is not economic, it is not racial, it is not about inequality, it is about every human, particularly the men, attaining the sphere designed for them by their Creator.  

 

The story is told of a married couple and their 12 year old daughter.  The mother was going to the store and asked the father to watch their daughter.  He assented and wanting to keep the precocious girl occupied, he took the newspaper he had, which had a map of the United States, and tore it into little pieces, and told the girl she could put the puzzle back together again.  Within five minutes she came back and said she had completed it.  Incredulous at how she could do it so quickly, he went to check, and sure enough she had done it.  He asked her how she had done it, and she said, "Daddy, when I saw you reading the paper, I saw the back of the map page, and it had a picture of a man.  When I put the man together, the nation came together".  

 

And so too with America, when we put the man together again, the nation will come together as well.

 

Thank you for reading,

 

Ciao,

 

Ryan

Comments

Janie Smith Added Nov 3, 2016 - 2:48pm
Well done, Ryan.  Lots of very important points, even for those who want to ignore the religious aspects. 
 
Both men and women have lost touch with their true value and how sharing that with one another is what makes for a fulfilling life. 
Ryan Messano Added Nov 3, 2016 - 3:04pm
Thank you Janie:).  
 
So true, our greatest bliss is not in variety, but in commitment, and courage, and honor.  Happiness and peace come from within:).
Donna Added Nov 3, 2016 - 3:36pm
Ryan,
I usually avoid your posts. However i had to comment on this one..
My dad is the exact person you describe above. He met my mom in 1959, he followed through with a year long courtship. Which impressed my mom, that he was only there for her...They courted as dad said for the next few years, Dad joined the Navy in 62, and from then on would hitch hike home from SC, when on leave. They married in 65, and had me in 66. I was the gift to mom should anything happen to dad, he said it was meant to be a constant reminder of him...they were married for well, until dad passed this  Jan. I never heard them argue, it was never done in front of the children. They were each others first and last...
Thank you for reminding me of a great childhood...And for the reminder that my dad was one hell of a man... )0(
Ryan Messano Added Nov 3, 2016 - 3:43pm
That is beautiful Donna, thank you for sharing:).  You are welcome:). 
Donna Added Nov 3, 2016 - 3:52pm
Ryan,
My dad held a lot of your beliefs. he taught me well. I can be stubborn, and oh so strong minded, but i will look at all sides of a issue, then decide how to proceed. On another article i asked for you to define me, i do not think i am liberal, or progressive. I really think i fall in the middle, you said you didn't want to respond as the truth hurts. You of all must know that truth is something we all face when we look in the mirror so to speak. At least those of us who honestly look at ourselves. Am i correct?
Ryan Messano Added Nov 3, 2016 - 4:09pm
That is good Donna, yes, you can be stubborn and strong minded:).  Yes, facing the truth is important.  I don't view you as conservative.  You had an excellent upbringing with two loving parents, but beyond that conservatives are aware of our nations founding and how that applies to today.  When you decide on a candidate your criteria is not on principles, rather on whether you like them or not.  Granted both candidates are the worst in our nations history.  But one candidates platform is far closer to low taxes and regulation and for morality than the others.  Without morality our nation collapses.  Trump's failures were long ago, and we all fail.  He learned from it, because the remedy for his behavior is to outlaw porn, which he is doing.  
Thomas Sutrina Added Nov 3, 2016 - 4:27pm
Ryan basically a great article.  About the only thing that I disagree with is your statement on Islam.  I think ISIS provides a better example of why Islam has become more powerful.  Look at what ISIS does.  They show Muslims of ISIS having power over others.  So those that feel weak and have no self confidence can become a Muslim.  They seem themselves in the videos of Islam.  The biggest ploy of advertising is to place the customer in the ad replacing the actor.  Islam has accomplished this and thus are growing. 
 
So Ryan we defeat Islam by presenting Christians as having power not over others but power to lead others.  We need to put Christians into videos replacing the actor.  You to can be a real man that as you wrote: Churchill's words, "Never give in. Never give in. Never, never, never, never—in nothing, great or small, large or petty—never give in, except to convictions of honour and good sense. Never yield to force. Never yield to the apparently overwhelming might of the enemy".  We marvel and wonder at the might and strength of men in battle, and we forget that no man masters external battles without first mastering internal ones. 
 
I am not a Mormon but their TV ads do this.  The family reality programs so this.  We need a christian reality show the principles of a good woman and men.  We need Series like Little House on the Prairie.
Donna Added Nov 3, 2016 - 4:28pm
Ryan,
I did not decide on this election easily. Was one of the most volatile, scandal ridden election i have ever witnessed. yes i guess i do follow my emotions more so than many men, or women for that part. I do not like either candidate, i believe neither will be good for any of us, I am focusing on my states representatives... one way to help some change along, get younger blood, that will not be as quick to make the wrong changes. I believe the younger ones are the ones who will set us back on the correct path. My state votes next week, to say i am scared and worried is a little bit of an understatement. honestly i foresee a lot of problems after this election, and i do not think it will be good for any of us. thank you for taking the time to respond back to me. I know we do not generally see eye to eye,but i would like to think that we can at the least have an intelligent conversation. After all we both want the same , a world we can live in that benefits all of us, in every way.
One more thing, when i say i work 3 jobs, please do not think i am complaining. I choose to do this, it allows me to be able to help my mom, in-laws, and those around me who have nothing. this is my way of helping those who need it. I do have an education, and i am not seeking any pity from anyone. I am getting tired, i will admit this, but i am no spring chicken, and have some health issues, however i would not know what to do if this was not how i lived...I like being a helper,,,it is who i am.   )0(
Stone-Eater Friedli Added Nov 3, 2016 - 4:45pm
When one leaves out the religious aspects, it's a good article. May I call religion = what common sense should be without needing a god as a "leader" or "adviser"...
Doug Plumb Added Nov 3, 2016 - 5:56pm
Common sense is somewhat fluid and changes with time. You cannot write laws from this. Common sense depends on empirical experience and this is always changing. You need theology to make laws and Christianity is the only law that does actually protect your reasonable rights as outlined in the constitution. The Bible is a much bigger and heavier law book than the constitution, it is the backbone of the constitution. It site on more solid ground and is better reasoned. Christianity is a very well considered religion and set of doctrines, 2000 years ahead of anarchists (and probably 4000 years ahead of Progressives)
  People really won't know what they had after they lose Christianity. The oligarchy is at war with Christianity and whites. Whites are Christians, as are blacks, because they are the original peoples that made up the USA. People that believe they have rights have no place in the NWO. Christians, unlike Islam and Judaism, is lead by reason, not authority and that's why they want it gone.
Ryan Messano Added Nov 3, 2016 - 6:10pm
Thank you Thomas, I am for the elimination of the television completely, though you mention some good programs.  There is too much sacrificed simply passively watching television as opposed to interacting with others and being actively engaged in life.  
 
Our desires are similar, Donna, our methods are different:).  
An investment in knowledge pays the best dividends.  I recommend reading "Think and Grow Rich" if you have not already read it.  Also, "Acres of Diamonds" is a great book as well.  Life is not about accumulating money, but there is no reason why any person cannot make as much as they wish.  We only have to determine how much we want, what we will do to get it, stay disciplined, and determine when we want the money by.  If education is needed, or specialized knowledge we must acquire that too, but it's available for free.  Whatever your skills are, you simply find out how you can create a business to serve others, and translate that service into as much money as you want.
 
Stone, I believe we are all born evil, and need to be reformed.  You believe we are all born good.  But if you are honest, and you compare our behavior and beliefs, mine is far more moral than yours, though you do not like to be categorized.  That is the truth that 99% of WB will agree with, and even James Convey will agree, as he just asked you to stop using profanity.  But I have nothing to be proud of, for my beliefs are not mine, they are both of our Creators.  
 
Doug I agree with you on Christianity and the Bible, but not racism and NWO.  
Stone-Eater Friedli Added Nov 3, 2016 - 6:59pm
Ryan
 
You believe we are all born good
 
Nope. We're born neutral. We become what we will be later by education, social life, media, experience and how we digest and analyze all that. It's about emotions mostly. 
 
The biggest problem of people is bringing emotions and intellect into balance.
Stone-Eater Friedli Added Nov 3, 2016 - 7:03pm
BTW:
 
mine is far more moral than yours
 
How can you know ? By blogging and what I say ?
 
I tell you only one thing:
 
Come to Africa and help support us there. By presence, work and understanding the culture and society. I have the greatest respect for people who do help on site, these are my driving force. Not blogging. 
 
And spare me of the comment that you spare a dime or two to a beggar in the US or help in a homeless kitchen. That's ok but doesn't give you the right to judge other people on their morality. Do you know what the others on WB do ? No.
Stone-Eater Friedli Added Nov 3, 2016 - 7:05pm
BTW2: You have an over-exaggerated ego, Ryan. And frankly, I think it's based on - nothing. 
Ryan Messano Added Nov 3, 2016 - 7:09pm
We have evil natures, Stone, as you and others so nicely demonstrate continuously.  You claim common sense can guide us to good, but if we examined your words, we'd find enough profanity to figure out your language is definitely not good, and there is no human on earth who talks with profanity but is a "good" person.  We choose the words that align with our behavior choices.
 
Giving people money, food, shelter is not even close to giving the greatest gift of all, a good example.  Once people learn to live moral lives they can get all that for themselves.  
 
Christ has been helping people for 2,000 years, and it was his example.  He said God's words help people more than bread does.  He was totally right.  By living and speaking the words of life, you would do far more good for the world than if you gave food to every hungry person for the next 3 years.  Righteous people don't beg.
Ryan Messano Added Nov 3, 2016 - 7:44pm
No, Stone, you have the Ego.
 
Ego, Edging God Out.  That's what you do.
Patrick Writes Added Nov 3, 2016 - 8:48pm
To not bash feminism too much, it started out reasonably enough. 

Early predecessors of feminism were the temperance movements of the 19th century.
 
First wave feminism was about getting the right to vote. That was good. 
 
Second wave feminism in the 1950's and 60's was about getting equal opportunities in employment, pay, access (via education). That was good too (although this got a little weird in the 70's with burning bras, etc...). 
 
The sexual revolution, which was a little different, got mixed into 2nd wave feminism too. This, in general, allowed women more freedom to plan their lives and when they wanted to have children. Broadly speaking, I don't have a problem with this--although I'm completely against abortion, not necessarily in favor of making it illegal, but I feel that it's murder and would never waver to try to talk someone out of one who wanted to get one. 
 
3rd wave feminism is where it definitely got off track in the 80's and 90's. This was apparently to overthrow the boundaries society placed women in the areas of sexuality--i.e. women should aim to imitate men in terms of promiscuity--and even consider / experiment with other females in this realm. From my life experience, the average woman doesn't naturally want to sleep with 80 guys before getting married (nor does she naturally desire other women).  
 
The following was an interesting article I read back in 2013. It makes a case that, according to a study the best looking young women (who clearly have the greatest ability to be promiscuous) tend to have the least number of sexual partners. 
 
http://www.wsj.com/articles/SB10001424127887324162304578304052148043138
 
And the best looking young males tend to have the greatest number sexual partners. 
 
It made the case that women generally don't want have to have huge numbers of sexual partners. And if 3rd wave feminism is trying to brainwash them into those choices, then it is influencing women to do something that is unnatural for them. Usually when we do things that are unnatural or unhelpful for us, it leads to misery. 
 
And experimenting around with other women...how often did this happen before society encouraged this? Pretty rare...ok. 
 
And 4th wave feminism is something that's been only recently coined which appears to be about knocking down walls for trans-women (guys dressed as women)...yawn. 
Ryan Messano Added Nov 3, 2016 - 9:02pm
Great comment, Patrick, interesting.
Patrick Writes Added Nov 3, 2016 - 9:23pm
A final point, societies can go too far with obsessing over masculine traits. Ryan's post lists out positive, Judeo-Christian traits.
 
But, for instance, honor I'd argue is a human concept. And this word, honor, is what cause Southerners in the antebellum South to gun each other down in vast numbers fighting duels against each other (you know the, walk 10 paces, turn and shoot each other duels--even the Wild West showdown is a modern corruption of people fighting pretty standard 19th century duels). They did this defending either their or their family's honor. 
 
I know that's not what Ryan defined here as the honor he holds up as a virtue. But that word gets twisted to mean all sorts of weird things (honor killings in Islam as well--killing your own son or daughter for bringing dishonor to the family). 
Ryan Messano Added Nov 3, 2016 - 9:24pm
Good point, Patrick, yes, the honor I meant was not that driven by pride but that honor that comes from obedience to God.
Billy Roper Added Nov 3, 2016 - 11:45pm
I think a good man stands up for his convictions, whether they are popular or trendy or not. A good man believes in absolute truths, and in objective good and evil.
Ryan Messano Added Nov 4, 2016 - 6:44pm
No, Jon, good point.  I agree Billy!
Ryan Messano Added Nov 4, 2016 - 7:12pm
We are supposed to have them justified by God or we are not justified.  You are right, many try to say God approves of what they do, when he does not.  
Neelon Crawford Added Nov 5, 2016 - 6:42am
You write a compelling and convincing article but screw up the message by infusing God and religion into it.  A good man does not need to be religious to make his wife “truly happy” and be a “credit to the community.” Just out of curiosity, in your opinion, does one who prays to Allah or Buddha have the ability to be a credit to his community or is that designation only for those that pray to Jesus? 
Stephen Hunter Added Nov 5, 2016 - 12:15pm
Ryan- question? Do you think it is sinful for a man and his wife(in a monogamous relationship) to watch an erotic movie together, in order to heighten their sexual pleasures? 
Dr. Mohammad Omar Farooq Added Nov 5, 2016 - 1:15pm
Salam, Mr. Messano.
 
While you did not participate in the thread "Your Religion is Violent, Mine is not ...", I see that your contribution to WB continues robustly.
 
A good man. This is a good topic. We, men, can and should take a self-critical appraisal of ourselves. However, a prejudiced mind can't but leave some trace of prejudice in his or her writing, and this was not an exception. This article could have been written without any reference to Islam or other religions, but here we have Mr. Messano and it could not have been any other way.
 
"even though the religion is a death cult, they are waxing more and more powerful."
 
These are cute comments, but you have decided that it is easier to make such cute and curt comments about Islam than engaging in any substantive exchange from a comparative perspective. But that's your prerogative, and the readers are aware of it. Thus, there is no point in making any comment about your oft-repeated, prejudiced statements regarding which you have no interest in any meaningful and substantive exchange.
 
When I share my thoughts about things that I disagree with, I am reminded by the Qur'an to be fair: "O ye who believe! stand out firmly for God, as witnesses to fair dealing, and let not the hatred of others to you make you swerve to wrong and depart from justice. Be just: that is next to piety: and fear Allah. For Allah is well-acquainted with all that ye do." [5/al-Ma'ida/8]
 
That kind of message/teaching is compatible with and reflection of a "death cult"!!! Isn't it?
 
Those who claim to believe in Bible should approach Genesis 17:20  ["And as for Ishmael, I have heard you: I will surely bless him ..."] with a positive attitude and suddenly one will begin to see the "death cult" from a fundamentally different angle.
 
Anyway, the other part of your comment regarding Islam involves women. "This is why Islam is becoming more and more powerful, because Islamic men are raised to be the head, and women are raised to submit and have children."
 
This is another deep misunderstanding or misrepresentation of Islam. Talk to any educated/informed Muslim, and you will know that he does not view women to be required or expected to SUBMIT to him. Husband and wife are life-partners. SUBMISSION is only to God.
 
In Islam "The Believers, men and women, are GUARDIANS/PROTECTORS/FRIENDS (in Arabic, AWLIYA) one of another: they enjoin what is just, and forbid what is evil: they observe regular prayers, practise regular charity, and obey God and His Messenger. On them will God pour His mercy: for God is Exalted in power, Wise." [9/at-Tauba/71]
 
This kind of misunderstanding/misrepresentation, as reflected in your comment, arises from a confusion involving culture and normative teachings. In my Muslim family experience, whether it was my grandparents, my parents or as it involves myself and my beloved wife, the very thought of the conjugal relationship and bond in terms of SUBMISSION would be alien and odious, as SUBMISSION is exclusively to God. 
 
Another important normative value of Islam is SHURA (consultation).
 
"And those who have responded to their Lord and established prayer and whose affair is conducted by mutual consultation, and from what We have provided them, they spend [in charity]." [42/Ash-Shura/38]
 
To properly understand Islam in regard to family relationship, one needs to take into consideration the normative guidance based on the concept of AWLIYA/Wilayah (mutual guardianship) and SHURA (mutual consultation).
 
Warm regards.
Dr. Mohammad Omar Farooq Added Nov 5, 2016 - 2:00pm
Dear, Mr. DeGraff.
 
"A Muslim friend told my Pastor he was fortunate man. Why? Because you have onlt one wife to please! I go nuts trying to please both!
Cheerio !!! "
 
That's a good one. But while Islam allows polygyny, it expects strict fairness in dealing with more than one wife. "But if you fear that you will not be just, then [marry only] one ..." [Qur'an 4/an-Nisa/3]

 
The normative guidance of Islam is one wife. Polygyny is permissible under certain circumstances, but it is not encouraged. The effect: Overwhelming majority of Muslims are monogamous. In three previous generations of my family, there has not been a single case of polygyny. Among all those people I have known in my circle of relatives, friends and acquaintances, numbering in tens of thousands, I hardly can recall cases of polygyny beyond what I can count on one finger.
 
Now, whoever that Muslim was who was trying to please two deserves to "go nuts", because that's the reality of life and the normative guidance/preference of Islam would have saved himself from situation where he has to "go nuts". Warm regards.
Corey Goldstone Added Nov 5, 2016 - 4:29pm
I believe that I am both a real man and a man that goes to the beach sometimes. I didn't know that disqualified me, but I guess I need to rethink my priorities after reading this.
Ryan Messano Added Nov 7, 2016 - 4:28am
Neelon, God and religion are essential to human happiness.  That is what our Founders knew, why don't you?
Ryan Messano Added Nov 7, 2016 - 4:30am
Hi Stephen,
 
Yes, I do believe watching porn is a sin in a marriage.  It's a sin period. Not only are the people who perform prostituting themselves out, but watching other humans have sex is a sin according to Matt 5:27 where Christ said, "If a man look at a woman to lust after her , he has committed adultery with her already in his heart."
Ryan Messano Added Nov 7, 2016 - 4:38am
It is good to be prejudiced against falsehood, Dr. Farooq, and it is easy to be immunized against this prejudice when one is raised in a doctrine that propounds falsehood.
 
Also, submission should first be to God by both the man and the woman, however, how many Muslim nations have Muslim leaders with multiple wives?  A better question would be which Islamic nation on earth has a leader who has been married to only one woman and has been faithful to her?  They practice polygamy, and are simply doing what Muhammad did, and Islam has imitated for the past 1,400 years.  God did create an order to things, and a man being subject to him, and the man loving and caring for a woman, and she responding by voluntarily subjecting herself to him is God's design.  
 
Thank you Richard:). LOL.
 
Only dead fish go with the stream, Corey:).  Societies standards for what a man ought to be have slipped horribly since 1900,and our society has suffered terribly.  The Founder of Kellogg's cereal had an interesting book.  He had three ideas which were totally false, which was supporting eugenics, and miscegenation, as well as supporting sex in marriage between a man and a woman in marriage alone for procreation alone and for no other purpose.  But it's important to not throw out the baby with the bathwater.  His Plain Facts for Old and Young are just as true today as when he wrote them,but they are even more important today, because Alfred Kinsey's Sex studies have polluted our understanding of sexuality badly.  
Bill H. Added Jan 4, 2017 - 11:28pm
 
Ryan just up and left over a month ago. I always thought he was a bit too public about who he was, where he worked, and where he lived.
I suspect he may have gotten a visit from someone who got pissed off by his slander and insults.
I would never wish harm on anyone, but if one decides to let everyone know who they are and where they live, and then open up a barrage of slanderous insults, it's kinda like poking a lion with a toothpick.
There are loads of violent unpredictable fools out there, and we have seen a few examples here on WB over the years.
Ryan Messano Added Feb 16, 2017 - 3:24pm
LOL, not so, but you can study on evil surmising, and also study Sherlock Holmes, since you have a very bad habit of reaching false conclusions.  
 
One man with God is a majority, and if God be for me, who can be against me?