There was considerable appreciated feedback on my article on what a good woman was, and so due to requests, an article on what a good man is presented for the readers perusal. Ultimately, societies rely upon the man, and that is no offense to the women, but it is a reality. Women were created last, and are the perfection of creation, but men are the movers and shakers of a society, they are the hunters, while women are the hunted:). The modern feminist movement is only a reaction to emasculated men who have not learned to control their desires. A real man has his priorities of God, family, and then his job. He first submits himself to God, and then he becomes worthy of being submitted to by a woman in marriage. A man who submits himself to God is invincible, for though we all have faults, our Creator can overcome them in us if we will only resign our wills to him. There are huge threats to manliness in our society today, and the number one threat is pornography. Nothing strips a man of his strength and power like the illicit viewing of others doing what should only be viewed and enjoyed in a marriage between a man and his wife. This is why Islam is becoming more and more powerful, because Islamic men are raised to be the head, and women are raised to submit and have children. Because they are following God's design more than America, their population is exploding, and even though the religion is a death cult, they are waxing more and more powerful. It is easy for a Redwood tree, which is one of the tallest trees in the world, to forget how it got so tall just as it is easy for a society which is powerful to forget how it got so powerful. America got so powerful because men were raised to become the leaders in society and to raise families and to provide for and love their wives. It doesn't take a rocket scientist to understand the social devastation that occurs when this model is left. What does it mean to love one's wife? Johnny Lingo and his Eight Cow Wife is a good model to follow. When I was in the Nuclear Navy, they had three words that were our credo: Honor, Courage, and Commitment. I think that sums up what a good man is, and will explore each of those at length.
Honor is to uphold one's integrity when no one is watching. It has become a virtue in today's society to merely condemn those get caught in wrong doing instead of condemning actions whether or not other people find out. Men who cannot maintain their integrity in private are not fit to lead a woman in marriage or to lead in our society. The Greek historian Polybius said, "'There is no witness so dreadful, no accuser so terrible as the conscience that dwells in the heart of every man.'". A man's fight against himself to master his desires is the greatest fight he will ever fight. No battle outside himself will ever approach the meaning or have greater rewards than the fight against his own desires. Ancient cultures had rites of passage, but there is one for every man. How does he go about mastering his desires. Millions of men, if not billions never fight that fight. This is a major cause for the dysfunction in society today. A man who is convinced he is merely an animal and that his urges are there to be acted upon can never be relied upon. He will go to his grave a boy. A man who realizes that despite many setbacks, that his urges must be conquered for him to ever become a man will, when he succeeds in taming himself, reach a peace, joy, and strength that he never could realize otherwise. Many men have simply succumbed and surrendered and claim that their actions are only natural, and must be obeyed, and that to resist their urges is harmful. They would do well to learn from Churchill's words, "Never give in. Never give in. Never, never, never, never—in nothing, great or small, large or petty—never give in, except to convictions of honour and good sense. Never yield to force. Never yield to the apparently overwhelming might of the enemy". We marvel and wonder at the might and strength of men in battle, and we forget that no man masters external battles without first mastering internal ones. C.S. Lewis, of Narnia fame, spoke about temptation, "No man knows how bad he is till he has tried very hard to be good. A silly idea is current that good people do not know what temptation means. This is an obvious lie. Only those who try to resist temptation know how strong it is. After all, you find out the strength of the German army by fighting against it, not by giving in. You find out the strength of a wind by trying to walk against it, not by lying down. A man who gives in to temptation after five minutes simply does not know what it would have been like an hour later. That is why bad people, in one sense, know very little about badness — they have lived a sheltered life by always giving in. We never find out the strength of the evil impulse inside us until we try to fight it: and Christ, because He was the only man who never yielded to temptation, is also the only man who knows to the full what temptation means — the only complete realist."
So, the man who resists temptation becomes very strong. Even those who have fallen prey to it many times can learn and make their mistakes stepping stones to success. And Honor inside one-self is so important, because as Alfred Lord Tennyson said, it leads to courage, "My strength is as the strength of ten, because my heart is pure". Purity of heart led to strength and courage. Jesus said as much in his Sermon on the Mount, "Blessed (happy) are the pure in heart for they shall see God". The reader will note that whenever there are particularly fierce oppositions to certain truths propounded on WB, inquiries are made as to exactly what habits obstruct the writers view of truth.
Courage. This word is SO PROFOUND!! It is literally a key to ever finding the truth, and ever achieving ones’ destiny. Defined it means: "Having the attitude of facing and dealing with anything recognized to be dangerous, difficult, or painful, instead of withdrawing from it". Sir Walter Scott, who wrote the wonderful novel Ivanhoe, said, "Without courage there cannot be truth, and without truth there can be no other virtue.". He is right. Is it not true that only those who are brave enough to face pain and adversity without flinching will find the truth? Those who simply go along with life’s flow and try to fit in where they can get in are never in danger of finding the truth, and incidentally, often prove the fiercest opposition to truth, for they cannot appreciate what they never troubled themselves to fight for. Courage is necessary first in self. For when one sets out to be virtuous or to master oneself, ONE WILL HAVE SETBACKS. One must learn that a setback is a set up for a comeback. When the going gets tough, the tough get going. Winners never quit, and quitters never win. A man has to learn to be like a postage stamp and to stick to something until it gets there:). He has to learn FOCUS (F)ollow (O)ne (C)ourse (U)ntil (S)uccessful. He has to learn that his ATTITUDE is 100%, and that without it courage is impossible. A =1 T=20 T =20 I = 9 (1+20+20+9=50) T = 20 U =21 D =4 E =5 (20 + 21 + 4 +5 =50) 50 +50 =100%. So you see, Dear Reader, your attitude is 100% of your outcome, and Zig Ziglar was right when he said it is your "attitude not your aptitude that determines your altitude. Men need to have courage within first, for they cannot defend a wife, child, or their society if they have not defended their own soul. Porn is a terrible threat to courage, as it strips a man of his self-worth, and makes him a paltry, pathetic shadow of what he ought to be.
A man who is not in control of himself is a coward, and he can marry as many women as he likes or get involved with however many, but women are smart, and they will always see him for what he is, and they will despise him, and then many men get mad at women, when they have nothing to be angry about but their own silly choices. If a man wishes to be treated like a King, he must first act like one and that starts when he is alone, and the thoughts and actions he chooses when no one is watching. A good man has the courage to lead, and realizes that Solomon was right when he said, "He that is slow to anger is better than the mighty; and he that ruleth his spirit than he that taketh a city.". Controlling one's anger is a sign of a powerful man. "The discretion of a man deferreth his anger; and it is his glory to pass over a transgression." as Solomon said as well in Proverbs. Courage is not the same thing as always being angry. For as Solomon once again said, "anger resteth in the bosom of fools". Anger and pride are closely related. Women would do well to look for humble men. They are the hardest workers, and the most likely to please others and not themselves. They are also the least selfish. Pride is those who think they know more than they really do. Proud people are easily angered, because they hate to be reminded that they are not the lofty ideals they have set themselves up to be. There is a huge difference between those who attack ideals based on truth, and those who believe in lies and hate to be corrected. When a man has mastered himself, and is brave, he is ready to move along to commitment.
Commitment is a high word, and one used by servants. Many view servanthood as beneath them, but the wise realize the greatest are simply the greatest servants. We are all servants in one capacity or another. The greatest are those who fight first for their souls, and serve God, and then turn around and serve their fellow man. Our society is full of men who serve only their own selfish impulses. From Bill Clinton, to Trump's past indiscretions we have millions of examples of men in our nation who are only after being committed to their own present pleasure, no matter who gets harmed. They leave millions of women and damaged children in their wake. Here are the words of a five year old girl who does not have her father, "mom, why do my friends have fathers and I don't, did I do something wrong or is he lost and couldn't find his way home"? A real man is committed to his wife with his eyes. That starts with his thoughts. As a child I LOVED The Wizard of Oz books. I purchased the entire 17 volume set a few years back, and it is a wonderful reminder of my childhood, when my parents would take me to the library when I was 5 or 6 and I would wake up at four in the morning to read what would happen next in the Oz book. L. Frank Baum, the author was a remarkable man. When he was on his deathbed, he leaned over to his wife before he died, and he said, "Honey, I just want you to know that I have never loved another woman since I met you". That is the kind of commitment that a real man has. A real man realizes that he is loving a woman and her heart. A real man is not shallow and superficial and leaving his wife when she ages to go find himself a trophy wife. A real man realizes what King Solomon said, "Beauty is vain and favor deceitful, but a woman who fears the lord, she shall be praised". A real man refuses to look at pornography. A real man does not go to the beach, or swimming pools. He refuses to look at a woman who is scantily clad. A real man does not have a television. He realizes television is full of some of the most absurd garbage and he refuses to pollute his eyes and mind with television and Hollywood's movies. While there are some good programs, the trade-off to learn the tiny amount of good on television while forsaking meaningful human interactions isn't even close to being worth it. He realizes his eyes are naturally attracted to women who are scantily clad, and he removes temptation from his eyes. A real man realizes that men are powerful and are told to fight, but the one thing God told a man he could not resist was the sight of a beautiful woman not his wife, and God said to "RUN". Joseph did it, and he went from being a slave to being a ruler. Every man on earth can do it, and they will go from being slaves to rulers first over themselves, and then over others, for a man who rules himself wisely, will be sought after to rule others wisely as well.
A real man does not leave his commitment to his wife and children, and he loves his wife. A real man does not dream of putting a woman in a compromising situation. A REAL MAN DOES NOT PAY A WOMAN FOR SEX!!! That is not commitment. A good man lives wisely and frugally, and he provides materially for his wife and children. He also is revered in his community, and his good name is known far and wide. But the commitment that is first and foremost for a good man is the commitment to God. With God, courage, and honor are his, but without God, a man is lost, and can never make a wife truly happy, nor can he truly be a credit to his community. America is full of selfish men, who look only to their own pleasures. Since they are not willing to be courageous, honorable, and committed, women are not committed to having children and making a family their primary priority. Our nation is falling apart because of selfish men, and until the men become what God intended them to be, the problem will not be fixed. The problem is not economic, it is not racial, it is not about inequality, it is about every human, particularly the men, attaining the sphere designed for them by their Creator.
The story is told of a married couple and their 12 year old daughter. The mother was going to the store and asked the father to watch their daughter. He assented and wanting to keep the precocious girl occupied, he took the newspaper he had, which had a map of the United States, and tore it into little pieces, and told the girl she could put the puzzle back together again. Within five minutes she came back and said she had completed it. Incredulous at how she could do it so quickly, he went to check, and sure enough she had done it. He asked her how she had done it, and she said, "Daddy, when I saw you reading the paper, I saw the back of the map page, and it had a picture of a man. When I put the man together, the nation came together".
And so too with America, when we put the man together again, the nation will come together as well.
Thank you for reading,