Growing up I had a piece a shit for a father. I wont go into why because that’s not purpose of this article. just know that in my 20s we became best friends before he died at the age of 62.
In my younger years my old man never sat down with me to build a pinewood derby car, or took me fishing on the weekends,, but he did teach me something that all too many fathers don't teach their sons these days. As he put it, he taught me to “Don’t be that fucking guy”. This phrase had many meanings to it.
The first time I was told this was being dropped off in elementary school and my dad saying, “Hey, you ever see anyone getting picked on or teased whose weaker than the other guys, you better defend the weak and kick the shit out of the other guys, and if the other guys can beat the shit out you, you still give it your best shot, the biggest pussys are the ones that do nothing. My son will not be one of those fucking guys. You got it?
Another memorable time was on my way to school after which I was going to my first after school dance in Junior High. He grabbed me by the arm on my way out the door and said, “I don’t care if the heaviest, homeliest, most unpopular girl in the entire school asks you to dance, you smile big and you say absolutely and you make her feel like your proud to dance with her because my son isn’t going to be that fucking guy who that poor girl remembers the rest of life as a bad fucking memory, your got it?
Finally before he died, he hated my aunt, I mean hated this woman for reasons God only knows. She was poor and lived in a dingy apartment with run down furniture. One Saturday he yells at me to come with him. He had already arranged somehow to have her out of her apartment for a couple of hours. We got a moving van, went to her apartment and loaded up all of her old furniture and threw it away. We then went to the furniture store and bought brand new furniture and replaced it in her apartment before she got home. Before we left he said, “I may not like the woman, but I cant stand seeing her live this way. We are not those kind of fucking guys”
I hope I have made him proud.