“To be or not to be that is the question…” and it is a question we may not ask of ourselves enough. In fact, it is a question that many never ask of our true self at all.
We may ask this question of others from time to time during our journey through life, however that is where the problem may lie.
We may look to our parents, coaches, teachers, religious leaders, or other role models, to guide us in how to behave. And that is OK, as there is no doubt that our heroes have adopted many positive or good practices to navigate life’s twists and turns. However, they also adopted many negative practices as well. And we have a human tendency to deify our heroes as if these role models could never do any wrong.
To get closer to the truth there is only one place we can go. That is deep inside our true self. That is a place where ego does not exist. Ego used in this context, describes that piece of our mind which wants to separate us (or our group) from all others, the mindset of “looking out for #1”. It is that which wants us to stay safe in our cocoon or comfort zone. And it is that(ego) which also is at the root of all human suffering.
Author Gregg Braden feels there is another question we must come to terms with;
“That question is simply “Who are we?” Our answer to this question speaks directly to the core of every challenge that will ever test us in life, no matter how big or how small. It’s at the heart of every choice we’ll ever face, and it forms the foundation for every decision we’ll ever make. Our answer to “Who are we?” penetrates to the essence of each moment of our lives. It forms the perceptual eyes—the filters—through which we see other people, the world around us, and most importantly, ourselves .. Our self-esteem, our self-worth, our sense of confidence, our well being, and our safety stem directly from the way we think of ourselves in the world.”
When we arrive in this world of form, we are put here for a purpose. This purpose determines the path we take, and depends on the unique set of talents we were born with. But it all boils down to giving back. The more we give, the better we feel. The other piece of the happiness puzzle is gratitude. When we express gratitude, we feel better. Simply stay humble and give back.
However, after we are born, expectations are thrust upon us, many by those same heroes we so respect. And that leads us into the outside world of form, where success is measured by how much stuff you have; “Whoever dies with the most toys wins”, “The American Dream”. This way of thinking leads us down the path our ego wants us to go, satiating our human greed. Where you never have enough, and are always seeking the next level of so called “success”.
We are here to help others through life. Discovering the special set of talents that each of us has, enables us to fulfill our mission. On life’s journey, we remain humble and grateful for all that is, and all that ever was, allowing us to be present. “to be” in the NOW.