I wonder - again.
I've got that friend who has it all, so it seems. He earns about 5'000 $ a month, has 2 cars and "god" knows how many friends of any gender that's available today. Always neatly dressed up to the latest fashion (actually he's 20 years younger than me, so....), he's able to talk to absolutely anybody from beggar to politician, and he's got a gorgeous girlfriend because of that.
Then he tells me he's on anti-depressiva.
"You know, I think something is missing."
"Not sure. Human warmth."
"How d'you figure that ?"
"Well, you see, I can buy almost anything I want except a plane (LOL), but ..... something is missing. I mean, I know you work for and in Africa, and you don't give a damn about material security, but I do. One day I will be old, and then I want to feel secure and not having to beg or being put out of society."
"Ok. I understand that. But tell me: Are you really LIVING today or are you functioning ?"
"How d'you mean that ?"
"I mean, do you take the time to think about what you're doing despite earning all that and being not happy with it ? And WHY you're not happy with it ?"
"Well, you see, I work all day, I've got obligations, expectations, I have responsabilities...."
"Hang on. You got no kids, right ?"
"Not yet, because I wouldn't have the time for them."
"Ah-huh. So when you'd work less, you'd have the time ?"
"So what's the problem ? Your girl wants some, right ?"
"Yep. Me too, in fact. But she has a good paying job too and wants to wait."
"Ok. You WAIT. You see, that's the problem."
"Why ? Waiting means having thoughts about what one does."
"Yep. But waiting can also mean missing LIFE. What's really important for our lives can't be bought with money. And I'm sure that you won't have a life of memories to share with your kids and see how life grows. Because you had no time. And you will look back and think: "I have missed so much, I wanted to do when I was younger. But career and money sucked me in. And now it's too late.""
" I mean YOU didn't make a career. You missed all the nice things I have. The comfort, the security."
"I know. I decided not to. Exactly for that reason. To have time for myself and my kids. That's what life is for. To be born, grow up, learn and teach your kids the best you can. Not to be able to buy no-matter-what and forget what life IS."
He sat back and thought about it while I left.