Take a Break..Step Back and Breathe...You CAN Do IT!!!

Im going to do a jump off of Opher’s post about the most Important Thing in the World, except that Im not going to give you the answer.  I also have to say, I am still laughing about the oxygen comment on his thread, smooth…the delivery was flawless.

 

In any event, I was away for 4 days AND IT WAS  GREAT!  I don’t mean from WB, I mean from ALL social media, my phone (I had it but it was off except to check in daily), no laptop, no wifi, nothing.   We did have electricity and my son had an ipod which is good for music if you have the little speakers that go with it so we all got to hear music.  Screw the rest of it.

 

I took pics of the babies which was fun, let me tell you.  Try to get a 3 month and 6 week old to cooperate in photographs, patience is key.  They were good sports though. We took hundreds of pictures of everything over a maybe two day period and then played with the kids.  It was fun. These are all my photographs...taken down due to sickos. 

My glass I have worked on for Christmas...

 

My dog at 5 years.

 

 

I cooked most of the time since my kids don’t get to eat my cooking very often anymore. I made Tortellini with a Pesto sauce with grilled chicken one night, Chicken and Dumplings (my sons favorite) another night, and I taught my daughter how to make a great seafood and fruit laced salad with fresh dressing I make and homemade creamy chicken soup with wild rice.   We did eat out one night at an authentic Mexican restaurant, really good food.  Too much food. I could not find any people loitering around that looked hungry so I actually had to throw away about half my plate (yeah that much food).

 

We played old fashioned games like monopoly ( a game to the death in my house), Clue, and old game of trivial pursuit, some other card game the kids had and just cards.  Hearts, Spades, Rummy, poker, whatever.   But we talked like we haven’t in a long, long time.  Which in spite of the new pressures of life on them, which means they are entering new phases of their lives, I can still help them to some degree. My kids are still cool.

 

I think the most important thing though that happened this weekend, was my time spent with my sons GF.  She and I never “bonded” over her insistence in his leaving his signed band before the June-July U.S. tour was done.  He worked for almost 14 years for that kind of success.  But she was right and I was not, the baby came early.  She is very tiny and the baby was large..9lbs 6 oz., so she had a hard time.    So we got to talk about some things and I think we both cleared the air and she told me some things I didn’t know.  

Moving forward..I think the kids are alright…

 

Take a break with a friend, some relatives you haven’t seen or some you have.  Break out the old photo albums and reminisce.  Play some music or just jam.  But get away from all the corrosive media that surrounds us.  If we all walked away from the corrosion (both sides) we might find some things we all share as opposed to that which we oppose.

 

“To be nobody but yourself in a world which is doing its best, night and day, to make you “everybody else” means to fight the hardest battle which any human being can fight; and never stop fighting!   Life moves pretty fast and if you don’t stop once in awhile..you might miss it! 

 

These are two things I live by even though someone else said them..I was born an original, and will not die a copy.  Also A favorite quote of mine by Milton Bearle..If opportunity doesn’t knock, build a door.  So go out, be original and build your own door.    Nothing is stopping you but you.  If you are angry about  the world,  take a break, breathe and think about what your best contribution could be.   Keep it simple. But take time for yourself away from the noise…

Best wishes to all… Jeanne

Comments

wsucram15 Added Oct 12, 2017 - 12:11pm
Just relax..it was fun.  Will be doing again at end of April.  Cannot wait.
wsucram15 Added Oct 12, 2017 - 12:18pm
Going to jazzfest in NOLA..cannot wait.  Music and friends, what else can you ask for?
Stone-Eater Friedli Added Oct 12, 2017 - 4:22pm
Jeanne
 
That's why I wait for 2018. Unsocial media my ass. Internet my ass. I grew up without it, and I won't need it there. I'll report from time to time from Africa, but that'll be it.
 
I'll try to form another band in Senegal to make music apart from my work. Blablabla on the net - nope. I won't waste the last chapter of my life by typing into a keyboard :-)
Lady Sekhmetnakt Added Oct 12, 2017 - 6:51pm
Looks like you had fun WSU. And glad you liked my joke. I generally try to stay offline as much as possible on the weekends myself so as to have time with friends and family. Since I'm expecting in late November I doubt my online time will be increasing. 
opher goodwin Added Oct 12, 2017 - 7:00pm
Jeanne - there are some valuable things there. I love those two quotes. Life is about being true to yourself and maximising your experience.
I think I've done that. It's fulfilling. It's not about the arriving; it's about the journey.
Jeff Michka Added Oct 12, 2017 - 7:11pm
Becky: A lot of places see a need for compassion based solutions.  Here's one I'm familiar with: https://www.compassionateactionnetwork.org/
wsucram15 Added Oct 12, 2017 - 8:16pm
I like you guys...I want you here.  I do..
BUT WE ALL NEED A BREAK.   If we weren't already tortured by the current climate, our artistic nature would make things worse anyway.
SEF, if you leave here...it will be hard for me to be here.   Im funny about things that way, even though Opher is now on here.
 Opher..Right?   The journey is everything, most people NEVER understand that.  Its cool you do.
Lady..you are an acquired taste...but your own person.  I will give you that and find that an admirable quality in a person.  You will be a good parent.  Stay in touch now..  Congratulations..on the expected baby! 
wsucram15 Added Oct 12, 2017 - 8:20pm
Interaction with people on here is not what I am discouraging, just a break from media now and again.   Thats all.  There is nothing more important than your...... What?
I doubt that answer is number of fans/friends on social media.
Jeff Michka Added Oct 12, 2017 - 9:12pm
wsucram15-Great pics!! Will think about sharing picks of my "upcoming" grand kid when she or he are a few weeks old, or can hit their marks on command, whichever comes first.  Don't know how we'll do being grandparents, but looking forward to the fun of being one.
wsucram15 Added Oct 12, 2017 - 9:22pm
Congratulations Grandpa!!!!
No commands jeff.  Patience and a camera with a tripod, clicker and a toy.  When they are really young, they sleep alot so you get the infant shots. (you do those shots freehand).
Photography is expensive so I do that for my kids.  
You'll be fine, just enjoy the baby...:)
 
Leroy Added Oct 12, 2017 - 10:18pm
Nice looking grandkids.
 
 
wsucram15 Added Oct 13, 2017 - 8:34am
Thanks Leroy.. both babies look exactly like my kids did at their age. Its weird.  Im happy they both like music and my Grandson is making sounds to music already, at least on stuff he likes.   They are both very talkative as far as sounds go... so its fun talking to them. 
Stone-Eater Friedli Added Oct 13, 2017 - 9:28am
Jeanne
 
My will would kill me if I put pics of my daughter on the net ! She's afraid that they would be misused...
Stone-Eater Friedli Added Oct 13, 2017 - 9:29am
will = wife. Damn Alzheimer, fuck off !
opher goodwin Added Oct 13, 2017 - 10:26am
SEF - my wife is the same. She won't allow pictures of herself either - mainly because she's never happy with them.
wsucram15 Added Oct 13, 2017 - 1:52pm
SEF..I know people are sickos.  I have seen fake pages with my stuff on it and information.  You use a watermark on the pics and on any music you must mark it as copy written, "use by permission only", from there, its on them.  
Do you know how many people I have gone after for the rights to my images and/or music I own copy rights on?   Thats why I put them up and then take them back down.   It costs less.
I used to have entire pages with my images up...but unless its a fake, not anymore.  People are really sad sometimes.
 
Look..my BF son works for microsoft and his dept deals with the government.  I will track through them and the ISP the person(s) who steal my images.  Kids or not.  Then I will find them, now that is where I will let your imagination go from there.   But I do have an attorney for all that stuff.
Now your flipping me out.  Jesus. 
wsucram15 Added Oct 13, 2017 - 1:58pm
Damn it...
Stone-Eater Friedli Added Oct 13, 2017 - 3:14pm
Jeanne
 
I don't give a shit, frankly. Nobody has used my songs yet - and if - I'd feel honored. I don't care about copyrights. In Cameroon for example that don't even exist ! Ask your son how many Windows licences are sold there LOL
Stone-Eater Friedli Added Oct 13, 2017 - 3:16pm
Ask him what KSM is. The poor man's license to the world.
Stone-Eater Friedli Added Oct 13, 2017 - 3:18pm
BTW: People can also freely use my pictures. I mean it takes me 10 minutes to do one. That's not worth thousands.....and as I said: I'm happy when people even look at them.
Jeff Michka Added Oct 13, 2017 - 6:18pm
TY, wsucram15...appreciated. When they are really young, they sleep alot so you get the infant shots. (you do those shots freehand).-Yup, makes sense.  Hopefully, "the sleeping a lot" will be when it benefits mom and dad, not just for pics.  LOL 
wsucram15 Added Oct 13, 2017 - 6:23pm
I have had too many ppl steal my stuff, well not steal it,  but re post it as theirs.  Photography costs quite a bit both in equipment and time. 
I was fine with the kids stuff being up until you guys said something.
 
Its also the principle.   If I was taking pics even with a camera for fun..maybe.  But I am around people that give me shit about putting up stuff online without watermarks and all the legal crap about property rights..etc.  I, about once a month, deal with professional photographers ( I should be there once a week but cannot afford it).  Also a friend of mine works in Photography for a living.  I like to do the set ups. 
 
I will ask my BF's son what KSM is when I talk to him..I am still waiting to hear back about one of his kids Christmas gifts.   
 
On the music...ok.  You wont mind until someone is playing your song as their song and making money on it.  You wont be flattered then. I promise.
Minister Peaceful Poet Added Oct 14, 2017 - 4:51am
The internet is great for me because I suffer from anxiety and I'm an introvert.  Online I have a lot to say and people listen, but if you met me in person, I might say two words to you in a day.  That's just me.  maybe if the internet went down for a long period of time, I might change. But I like it the way it is just fine. 
 
I have however stopped spending hours everyday going through email.  Been deleting it instead and I have been spending more time listening to music.  
wsucram15 Added Oct 14, 2017 - 10:08am
MPP.. My BF is like that, hes really quiet even if he knows you really well.  I have no idea on Gods Green Earth why he ever decided to hang around me..
I can be in a store and people will approach me and we will chat, people I dont know.  Someone is always asking me for directions or help.   My favorite is at a restaurant for menu recommendations (I actually have had people join me for dinner over those conversations).  If I met you, you would have fun...or at the very least enjoy your time spent.
I got on here because one of my Professors pushed me to do this, actually two of them did but the one really pushed it.   I could do without the net. Its cool, but not something I NEED.
Although...I hate to shop, and it is convenient for that, it cuts my shopping time by like 75%.
I listen to music while I am online..I cant stand the silence.
Stone-Eater Friedli Added Oct 15, 2017 - 12:07pm
Jeanne
 
No-one is using my songs. And if I probably won't find out ;-)
wsucram15 Added Oct 16, 2017 - 8:19am
Yeah I know..its weird.  I found out about the music because it was played on sirrus and both the band and my son have like thousands upon thousands of "friends" I guess you would call it.
A band in California not only played it as theirs, they put it out on a cd as their own which conflicted with my cd and at the time, pending Copy write.
 
Another band in Maryland did the same with another song and were actually quite cocky about it until the letter from the attorney.
 
I also heard from Sum41 producers about a breakdown piece in one of the songs that fortunately I was there when it was written. They felt it was too similar to their stuff and the music I recorded was "influenced by the Sum 41 piece".  It needed to be changed and re-recorded.  I talked to the boys, listened to both pieces of music and had to reply to their statement, then request notice from the band per my attorney. I guess it wasn't serious enough for them to pursue or "influence" is not enough to win, so they let it go.  But that stuff is serious business with bands.  
 
 
Jeff Michka Added Oct 19, 2017 - 12:08pm
wsucram15 sez: You wont mind until someone is playing your song as their song and making money on it.  You wont be flattered then. I promise. - But SEFa will see the ripoff in shades of gray:  They stole his material "with reason".  Copyrights are important even though a couple of WBers think copyrights are for suckers, so plagiarize and steal photos.  I had to dump the many shots from my last two articles, finally deciding to delete them all because of inability to get copyright clearance and "artist release" approval for several pics.  Net folks see copyright as a joke, so many just steal work with impunity, or just think it's okay.  It's not okay, and folks here ought to speak up and out about it. "But it's only an eclipse pic...who cares?" It's a STOLEN PIC. 

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