Learning to be Tough

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I'm listening to all of these arguments about what we need to teach kids to make a better world, all of this compassion, understanding, acceptance, and I say you're wrong. What we need to teach our kids is how to be tough in the face of adversity, and not just physical adversity, but moral adversity. What kids need to be taught is to speak up when they see wrong doings. And if they aren't listened to, how to fight to the death. We are teaching our children to be soft on themselves, because we have a political and social elite that promote weakness in all areas except the areas that support their agenda. They're the ones setting educational policy, all of this everyone wins for trying, all of this emphasis on sports over the more valuable assets of critical thinking.


You're best effort is not enough, because for 99.9% of humanity they have no idea what their best effort is in anything except sports, gambling, stock markets, etc... We like to be able to quantify our results so we can compare them. How do you quantify kindness? Was I kind enough? How do you know? Did I do enough to help?


So we're sending our poor kids to schools to teach them how to be compassionate, little sheep, while the rich are sending their kids to schools that teach aggressive competition, how to win without losing sleep over it, how to cheat, how to take advantage of any situation to gain the outcome you want. The rich kids learn that the outcomes they want are all that matter. Their contentment, their happiness is all that matters. Their schools teach them how to be mean sons-of-bitches, how to use people and toss them away, how to not get bogged down with obscure concepts of right and wrong, because the real work of this world is dirty, and involves life and death decisions, and needs advocates who believe they truly are better than the riff-raff in a fundamental way, better equipped to handle the running of the company profitably.


The rich know what the fight is really about. They know how the fight is won, because they've studied the history, know that most of our world leaders have been violent and uncompromising, willing to sacrifice others for the success of an agenda.


Don't we know how the playing field is tilted? That their are people actively tilting the field and if you want a level field you have to eliminate them? You can't listen to their arguments, because their arguments justify all of this, this best of all possible worlds. Like Little Peter St. George, they have all of these numbers and statistics, data to prove any argument, knowing the trick is limiting the argument to the data, not the other way around. How can data prove that Universal Healthcare can't work in the US? It can't, but data can show how it can fail and it's all a fabrication. You have to be tough to stand up to the fabrications of the wealthy who can punish dissent economically.


We know history doesn't judge the winners by the same standards it judges everybody else. The poor multitudes who believe there is fairness in the world need to be taught the truth.


Suckers. The only thing that's fair in this world is the weather on occasion and if you want to live long and prosper, don't rely on fair. Rely on tough and not just physically, but learn how to be tough on the value judgments that restrict you from making the changes you know the world requires, even though you know in the short term people will die. People always die. That's what people do. The question is always, what group will pay for this death? And how can we spin death to have it be pinned upon our enemies and not us? How can a country with such poor health be held hostage by the sugar industry? If you want to know, study the history of sugar in the US and the soda industry. 


What they should have in schools isn't the pledge of allegiance, it should be what Howard Beal said in Network. "I'm mad as hell and I'm not gonna take it anymore." Rage, the knowledge that you're getting screwed, can be the start of a beautiful relationship with yourself and it starts with asking tough questions, accepting tough answers, and realizing that we didn't get here by being all cuddly with each other. We got here by demanding that those around us meet the obligations they accepted come hell or high water. It's what we should demand of all authority figures and if they won't oblige, we should kill them.


mark henry smith Added Oct 12, 2017 - 12:47pm
Yeah, we're going to have to kill those people who are ruining the world. They are beyond convincing. Sorry.
George N Romey Added Oct 12, 2017 - 1:25pm
Mark so very well said. The sheep must begin to be lions.
Tubularsock Added Oct 12, 2017 - 5:15pm
Well Mark, Tubularsock agrees. But killing the people who are ruining the world could get a bit tricky. The U.S. is one of the prime suspects.
So we don't have to go much farther than the closet mirror. Now that's scary. It's NOT the other guy ........ it's US!
Jeffry Gilbert Added Oct 13, 2017 - 5:51am
I haven't liked any of your articles before this one. 
opher goodwin Added Oct 13, 2017 - 6:37am
What a nasty world you want to create - a world of selfish bullies - an uncaring, violent, vicious place of greed, heartlessness and nastiness.
You equate caring, compassion and empathy with weakness. Far from it. There's nothing wrong with standing up for your rights. Nothing weak in wanting a better world.
You just want more for yourself. Look around you at how much you've got.
It's as Tub pointed out - you're the worst culprits. You've grabbed as much as you can. The rest of the world is living off scraps. But that's OK - hey, you deserve it, right?
Lets kill them all - all the miserable fuckers who are fucking up the world - that's most of humanity isn't it?
George N Romey Added Oct 13, 2017 - 7:01am
At the end of the day its be ruled by thugs or off with their heads. The US was founded on revolution so its only fitting we have another one when our leaders start to become shrills for the .1%. 
opher goodwin Added Oct 13, 2017 - 7:24am
George - I'm certainly not in favour of being in slavery to the top 1% who run the whole shebang but I don't want our kids brought up as heartless, selfish thugs. I want a caring, compassionate society that cares for each other and the planet. Fuck those guys.
Jeffry Gilbert Added Oct 13, 2017 - 8:08am
You just want more for yourself. Look around you at how much you've got.
There you go jerking that knee again. 
Its my understanding from the Author's writing that he lives on a bicycle. Essentially has nothing. Goes to the library to get on the internet. 
You might want to dial back your value judgments just a tad. 
wsucram15 Added Oct 13, 2017 - 8:36am
You do need to teach kids to be tough..they need to know what they face out there.  I did and they also saw it firsthand.  
George N Romey Added Oct 13, 2017 - 9:09am
We the peons fight their wars and then are rewarded for a short period of time before they take it away like the 30s and 00s. When will people learn? We are their sheep unless we give them something to fear. The world is ruled by thugs either way. Wall Street is nothing more than legalized organized crime. som
Dino Manalis Added Oct 13, 2017 - 9:37am
It's a tough life, we have to tackle problems head-on, we can be both tough and dentle simultaneously, depending on what we're faced with.
opher goodwin Added Oct 13, 2017 - 1:21pm
Jeanne - being tough does not mean being mean, nasty, selfish and greedy. Kids full of self-esteem are tough as nails. They have no problem speaking out I can assure you. They don't need to be made mean to do that.
Dino - I would agree with you - pleasant and friendly but able to stand up for themselves when necessary.
There's nothing tough about being macho, cold and aggressive. That's just the making of a bullying society.
opher goodwin Added Oct 13, 2017 - 1:23pm
George - that is true. It's time everybody got out and protested it because the alternative, down the line, is violence.
George N Romey Added Oct 13, 2017 - 2:43pm
Since protesting seems to do little, just look what happened to Sanders supporters its time to get on their level.
B.E. Ladin Added Oct 13, 2017 - 6:15pm
Volunteer in a school for a period of time, and see how it alters your perspective.
Jeff Michka Added Oct 13, 2017 - 7:44pm
Ol Geo Romey squeezed a "that is true" out of this so he feels okay saying: We the peons fight their wars and then are rewarded for a short period of time before they take it away like the 30s and 00s-But you've stated a war would be good for those over 50 taking the jobs of dead draftees...You are not only an intellectual fraud, you are inhumane and lack a moral compass, your "church" and your "good works" (LOL)aside.-AND Since protesting seems to do little, just look what happened to Sanders supporters its time to get on their level.-The only things you protest are people not dressing to "your standards" and not getting the "job you deserve."  Maybe those 40-50 part time jobs you had should be telling you something.-and, of course, you're really super upset about the deep state, not to forget, you just won't ever do anything to oppose it.  You have no backbone.
George N Romey Added Oct 13, 2017 - 8:46pm
See Mika is one of the sheep but to dumb to know that he is.
Jeff Jackson Added Oct 13, 2017 - 11:22pm
The students are going to have SLSS Spoiled Little Snowflake Syndrome.
Jeff Michka Added Oct 14, 2017 - 12:43pm
opher goodwin writes to Geo "intellectual fraud" Romey: What a nasty world you want to create - a world of selfish bullies - an uncaring, violent, vicious place of greed, heartlessness and nastiness.-What ol Geo the revolutionary LOL failed to say was a war will be good so people like him can get the good jobs of kids, drafted to fight US wars and get killed, so "people over 50" will have "good jobs" again.  AND I'm a sheep? Predicated on what, gutless?  Have you let your family down (or what's left of your family) this week?  I bet alimony is hard to pay, huh?  Geo, you're just trying to con people here into thinking you're special, just not the garbage you really are.  Living for the scraps of compliments and being enshrined on WB as the 2 most comments, most written by yourself to yourself, because you are all that matters to you.  Nobody else cares about you, Geo the whiney f**k.  Have some shame, Geo.
mark henry smith Added Oct 14, 2017 - 2:49pm
Thank you all for commenting,
Opher, I am not advocating for a more violent, less compassionate world, quite the opposite. I believe that a more compassionate, less violent world can only be achieved by the elimination of the ruling elite who promote violent self interest. Look at where we are. We have a president who during the campaign talked proudly about beating up enemies and showed no compassion towards a family whose son had died fighting for this country, humiliated a war veteran who lived as a prisoner of war, but didn't support his political agenda. Our president is the embodiment of the mindset I'm talking about, a win-at-all-costs mentality.
It is my belief that these people don't give a fuck about anybody else, and only pretend to care when it serves there interests, are destroying the world for good reason. They own the best of it and if the rest of it is a mess it makes what they own even more valuable. So why should they worry about global warming? It's not going to affect them. The rich can just leave. The rich can afford the insurance. The rich can now take their riches anywhere. We've taken a world tolerant of obscene wealth and turned it into a world run by obscene wealth.
I do not have a problem with people being rewarded for their hard work. I have no problem with people being rewarded for their ingenious thoughts. I do have a problem with an entrenched class of wealthy people who feel no commitment to fair play. It's not bad parenting that teaches kids to play dirty. It's an entire system that rewards abuse.
Tough is doing the right thing when the wrong thing is so much easier. Tough is being willing to die for what you believe in. Tough is learned by failing, by paying costs for your mistakes, by being defeated and not letting it destroy you, by getting up and vowing to fight on, not because you want, but because the world needs.               
opher goodwin Added Oct 15, 2017 - 6:24pm
Mark - I agree that the political elite is part of the establishment shit and they don't give a fuck for any of us. We get the sops. They need getting rid of. But being tough is violent.
We need to raise kids to be empathetic, compassionate and aware - full of self-esteem and willing to stand up and shout. That's what I call tough.
If people do care and are not selfish and greedy they will see through sociopaths like Trump and demand compassionate people to vote for. We stand up against the establishment through the ballot box.
mark henry smith Added Oct 16, 2017 - 2:44pm
Opher, I hate to admit this, but I think we've gone too far. The power structure owns the political establishment, not the people, if they ever did. Any rational person looks at what we're doing to the world and says, "Hey, this isn't sustainable. We should stop and consider where we go from here, how we can adapt to changing conditions." But the elite says, "No, things are fine and are going to get better if we just keep on doing what we've been doing."
And neither is wrong. It's just a matter of perspective. For the richest people in the world, life is fine and getting better. They are accumulating wealth in a way unseen since the robber barons. This world is good for them, where everything is for sale, and fire sales are  happening all over the world. The terrible part for most of us is that we are those fire sales.    
Jeff Michka Added Oct 18, 2017 - 7:34pm
mhs sez: and showed no compassion towards a family whose son had died fighting for this country,-That's now plural...families, but La David was black, so "he knew what he was getting into." This puts Trump right up there with Geo Romey's wish for a war so the jobs of dead kids go to "those over 50." Both have moral compasses like those of rabid animals. 

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