The following is an email I just received from a former prospective new user. After she said she was uninterested in engaging her commenters I decided to give her a little dig and she responded to that dig. My response is in the comment thread:
I repeat: you know nothing about me. My blog is under construction, it’s completion delayed because I’ve been focused in other directions. The blog is not how I share my material. At this point in time I am utilizing it just to keep a record of my posts, and to provide a URL – in time I intend to link it to my FB page.
A thousand people receive my postings via email, and among those thousand are many (such as Shirlee) who share it further. And so in total many thousands see my material – which aims to inform. I get considerable communication from the readers of my posts – and when those who share my posts with others receive comments they pass them on. There is a lot of activity. I take the time to answer their many questions because they are in the main very serious people.
You imagine that you did me some huge favor because three people responded to my post when you put it up. I will tell you that I looked at the level of communication in those responses and was really not impressed. Some of it was insulting. I am missing NOTHING by not being involved with Writer Beat. It is strange that you are so caught up in your own sense of importance that you imagine you are offering something I cannot afford to pass on.
What I find difficult to tolerate are people like you who refuse to accept my answer, when I graciously decline participation. I’m not sure who you imagine you are, to tell me what I should be doing. If you had been smart you would have responded graciously in kind, saying you understood and perhaps at some other time when I am less pressed I might want to participate. That would have kept the door open and left me feeling positive towards you. But you had to harangue me, and criticize me – and so you have lost me irrevocably.
There is something for you to learn from this, but I doubt you will learn anything. There is not point in your responding further.