The book “The Like Switch” lists common pitfalls that impede verbal exchanges and cause others to dislike you. What I noticed was how social justice warriors do everything on the list, likely explaining why they are so widely detested. The numbered list gives the advice from the book “The Like Switch” regarding what NOT to do. Following them is what social justice warriors often do.
1. Avoid talking about topics that engender negative feelings in your listener. Constantly triggering negative feelings make people feel bad about themselves and like you less.
When your primary conversation topic is how bad society is, how bad everyone and everything is, you make them feel bad and like you less.
When your primary weapons of “change” are shaming, blaming and shunning, you are by definition generating negative feelings among everyone around you. Those who get “named” and shamed will now dislike you and your movement forever.
Everyone else is left walking on eggshells for fear of becoming the next target develop negative feelings, too. The reputation demolition others witness leaves them angry and frustrated, though they may be too afraid of liberal bullies to speak up.
The liberal haters who pour vitriol on others who remain neutral or express concern about evidence and due process, in their misguided “you’re either with us or you’re one of the bad people”, cause many others to dislike them. While they can enlist many social justice bullies to pile onto the target of today’s 2 minute hate, the demands that the target’s friends and family either disassociate or join in the pile-on make those individuals feel bad one way or the other and dislike the movement.
2. Don’t constantly complain about your problems, your family’s problems, the world’s problems.
In the developed world, real “aggressions” against various officially oppressed groups are so rare that liberal bullies invented the concept of “micro-aggressions” to complain about. And the list of what is sexist, racist, -phobic grows longer. They derive moral authority from being an aggrieved victim, and given the sheer number of complainants, their solution is to find new and more exotic things to complain about. This is how you get academics saying that free speech is white supremacy, math is racist and sexist, and every old TV show should be banned.
3. Avoid talking excessively about yourself.
“I’m offended.” “I don’t like this.” “As a member of X group, I think –“ I, I, I, me, me, me. “I say it hurts me, so you have to stop doing it.” And like a child raised without healthy boundaries, giving in to one demand provides only temporary respite before they make the next demand, though the constant litany of how they feel and what they want doesn’t stop at all.
4. Don’t engage in meaningless chatter.
We already discussed micro-aggressions as a way to make others dislike you. Now imagine the impact this has on civil discourse. In fact, we already see it. No one dares criticize the member of an officially oppressed group for fear of being named, blamed and shamed. So no one provides constructive feedback that lets the person grow. No one wants to discuss deep topics for fear of being called a bigot and publicly denounced much less the subject of liberal violence.
What is there left to talk about? Meaningless platitudes and repetition of the politically correct statements. And when liberals say everything is political, even idle talk about weather, sports and celebrity gossip is eroded because they demand everything be political. When you’re down to minimal discussion at work about work because everyone is afraid to say anything else, you destroy both the free flow of ideas necessary for creativity and productivity and people’s ability to form any relationships with each other beyond “cog in machine”.
You may still have deep and meaningful conversations with friends, people you spend a lot of time vetting to make sure they are “safe” to talk to. But with the moral peacock, the SJW, nothing is safe except meaningless chatter. Per the book “The Like Switch”, this ensures no one will ever like them.
5. Avoid expressing too little or too much emotional. Extreme displays of emotion may put you in a bad light.
One interesting argument liberals make is that “tone policing” is bigotry. Their argument is that they cannot be heard unless they shout. Thus, you’re the bad one for telling them not to yell at you. In short, they’re claiming the right to scream at people. This will not make anyone feel good about themselves or the liberal bully.
Another issue is their equating of words with violence. By saying words equal violence, they justify violence against those who disagree with them as well as any property damage and destruction they do in response to your “hate speech”. Whether it is a moral peacock having a screaming fit in response to others trying to hold a discussion on a topic the SJW doesn’t like or threatening violence in response to words they disagree with, these extreme displays of emotion put them in a bad light.
Now consider the weaponization of empathy. To share facts contrary to someone’s sacred narrative is described as an invalidation of self, an attack on their very identity. “You disagreed with me, it is like you want me dead!” While the hyperbole may get them sympathy in the short run and give them moral weight for their demands at that moment, in the long run, it makes them seem irrational, insane, incapable of self-control and far too erratic to ever be trusted. People naturally stay away from the extremely unpredictable, especially if they are afraid of the person’s actions.
No one likes someone who can blow up at random over trivial things, much less a group that does explode into extreme anger and hysterics with a chance of beatings, property damage and deliberate destruction of the target's life. The fact that such tactics are regularly employed to keep people submissive out of fear, in the name of love and virtue, is just rank hypocrisy ... or really good branding by liberal bullies.