I decided recently that I would never let myself feel hurried again. It was the other day and I had made an appointment to go look at a job down in center city Philadelphia and when the guy called me, all I saw was the money I could make. I'm an excellent handyman able to fix just about anything because of all of the situations I've been in.
We talked, and in my glass half-full optimism, I said, yes, I will ride down and meet you on this morning at this early time. I planned for it, went to bed early, got up, and realized this was crazy. I would have to ride my bike for two hours to get there, then work, then ride home for two hours. Unless I'd be given a room to stay in, it wouldn't work for me, and I don't want to sleep anywhere except on my most comfortable bed. Everyday I would be rushing to get there, and rushing to get home, and I never want to rush again.
We rush here in the US. It's what foreigners notice about us, our psychological rushing from one thing to the next. Most societies pay homage to a relaxed approach to life and the ideal is being able to take a siesta in the afternoon. Not US. We brag about how we stayed up and got this done and then did that. We take drugs so we can rush about and feel "energized," but it's really called, rushed.
It's not a real thing, being rushed. It's actually a state of mind that we choose, that we're trained to choose by all of the influence peddlers. Do more, be more, is the message. I would argue that's it's wiser to believe that doing less leads to being more.
We read these stories about these athletes who succeed by working harder than all of the other athletes and that's what the salespeople want everyone to believe, because it means everyone has a chance if they buy the right equipment, buy the right training video, fit more products into more time spent doing. But I never heard about Wayne Gretzky's crazy work outs. Or Nick Foles. I don't think crazy work outs really have as much to do with it as being able to harness the right amount of energy at the right time. The greats use their limited energy wisely and some greats just have energy to burn, like Walter Payton and Eric Hayden (wrong spelling). Most burn out.
When you don't make it to the top, the argument is always that you didn't work hard enough, right? But maybe it was that you felt too rushed all the time, were constantly being told to hurry up and get there, to prove something that you weren't ready to prove.
It appears that I have found some admirers on Facebook. It appears that scientists have found more evidence of dark energy. I spent the morning of my meeting, after calling the guy and canceling, apologizing and giving him my reasons, performing one of my songs on my Facebook page. It's really good, probably the best I've sounded ever performing my own work. I felt very relaxed. I'd made a good decision. And then I heard that report about dark energy, how it's properties are beginning to be better understood through quiet analysis of data. Let that be a lesson for all of us.